Five Tips to Help You Get Through Divorce

Sunday, August 6th, 2017

Five Tips to Help You Get Through Divorce by Debra Rubin

Going through a divorce can be stressful. Knowing what to expect can help you face the challenges you’ll encounter and increase your resilience.

Here are five important facts about the divorce process that you should be prepared for, and tips to take into consideration.

1. Divorces are emotional and difficult. Whether you’re the one who wants the divorce, or whether your spouse is the one who wants the divorce, it’s still going to be a big life change for you. It’s important to have a support system in place. While ultimately things are likely going to be better for you down the road, you’re still going to have to get through the process.

2. It’s important to choose the right attorney. An important aspect of choosing the right attorney is to choose someone who concentrates in matrimonial and family law. You don’t want to pick a criminal lawyer or somebody who does mostly trusts and estates, or even somebody who has a general practice. You’re best off having someone who concentrates in this field and does it on a daily basis. And because going through a divorce is so personal, it’s important to choose somebody that you have a good rapport with, so you can communicate candidly and comfortably with that person.

3. Know your finances. Be aware of all of your accounts, including investment and retirement accounts. Know all of your online passwords. Sometimes during the divorce process, one spouse will try to hide things from the other and will take control of financial records—so it’s good to get this information together and in order, before you take any initial steps.

4. Try to anticipate what your living expenses will be after the divorce. Are you going to be able to afford them on your own income? Are you anticipating getting spousal maintenance or child support? Will all of your resources be sufficient to support you in your current lifestyle, or are you going to have to downsize? Have a sense of what your needs will be going forward.

5. Your children don’t want to be in the middle of your divorce. That’s obviously absent any issues of abuse or danger from the other spouse. It’s important that the children be permitted to maintain a healthy relationship with both parents. To the extent possible, they should be left out of everything. We recognize that this is perhaps the most difficult of all of the tips in this article, but it’s also the most critical.

Contact us with questions or comments today at info@rrmatlaw.com.

By Debra L. Rubin Esq.

Rubin & Rosenblum, PLLC
445 Broad Hollow Road, Suite 210
Melville, New York 11747
Telephone: (631)462-5888
Email: grosenblum@rrmatlaw.com
Website: rubinandrosenblum.com

Help Your Lawyer Help You! 3 Tips to Keep in Mind

Friday, May 12th, 2017

Help Your Lawyer Help You! 3 Tips to Keep in Mind by Debra Rubin

Many people going through a divorce or other family law related matter have limited experience working with a lawyer; some may have never before hired a lawyer. Others may have prior experience in matrimonial litigation or in other types of cases. The tips below will help anyone going through a divorce, regardless of how many times you’ve worked with a lawyer before your current case.


3 Tips for Divorced Families to Survive the Holidays

Friday, December 9th, 2016

3 Tips for Divorced Families to Survive the Holidays by Debra Rubin & Gayle Rosenblum

Below are three tips for how to deal with issues concerning your children post-divorce during the holidays.

Tip #1

Try to have whatever parenting time schedule you are going to follow worked out before the holidays. Do not wait until December 23rd to work out your holiday and vacation schedule. (And if you need assistance from your lawyers, do not wait until the last minute to contact them.)


Paper, Paper, and More Paper That Should NOT be SHREDDED or Otherwise Disposed Of!

Thursday, September 29th, 2016

Paper, Paper, and More Paper That Should NOT be SHREDDED or Otherwise Disposed Of! by Gayle Rosenblum

Burden of Proof for Retaining Separate Property Upon Divorce

In a blog post earlier this year, we discussed the importance of maintaining a paper trail in post judgment matters, as it relates to collection of various expenses.

Similarly, documentation to support the burden of proof is a crucial issue for divorcing couples, who may just assume that—1. because they had an asset before they were married; 2. inherited an asset before or after they were married; and/or 3. received a monetary award in connection with a lawsuit—the asset/award is automatically theirs. However, it is not that simple!


Why It May Be in Your Best Interest to Settle a Divorce Out of Court

Friday, August 12th, 2016

Why It May Be in Your Best Interest to Settle a Divorce Out of Court by Debra Rubin

A divorce trial is sometimes necessary, but it is almost always best to settle your matter as opposed to having a judge decide your fate.

Ultimately, the things that you say in court that you think are going to help you might end up hurting you. Moreover, most good judges and lawyers will tell you that you are better off having input and fashioning your own agreement rather than allowing a stranger (the judge) to decide your future based upon what he or she may hear in testimony.


Post-Divorce: The Power of the Paper Trail

Wednesday, May 18th, 2016

Post-Divorce: The Power of the Paper Trail by Debra Rubin

Once the divorce papers are signed, it’s not over. If there is a financial obligation between two individuals, then there will remain an on-going relationship between them. Here are some tips to make those interactions as smooth as possible.

Child Support

If a parent is not paying child support as required, there are a few possible courses of action you can pursue. You could potentially have payments made through the child support collection unit, wage garnishment, and/or income execution. You could also seek a money judgment from the court. If, after exhausting these less drastic remedies, you are unsuccessful, then you could seek contempt from the court which could entail punishment by incarceration.


What If My Spouse Has Unreported Income?

Thursday, March 17th, 2016

What If My Spouse Has Unreported Income? by Debra Rubin

It’s not uncommon to find that somebody who is living a $300,000-a-year lifestyle is reporting $40,000 on their income tax returns.

It is a common scenario where one party in a divorce operates their own business in which certain expenses are run through the business, and/or fails to report all income on tax returns. Business owners will sometimes pay things like their car payments and cell phone bills through their business, but some people are even more brazen and charge any number of personal expenses directly through the auspices of the company they own. This can occur in any type of business or even a professional practice.


Keeping Your Kids out of Your Divorce

Tuesday, December 8th, 2015

Keeping Your Kids out of Your Divorce by Debra Rubin

While concerns regarding your children may be utmost on your mind, children suffer when they literally become the center of the divorce process.

Having divorced parents does not mean a child is not entitled to have a positive relationship with both of them. No matter how angry or bitter the parents may feel toward each other, expressing that anger to their children will hurt them, as well.


Judge Allows Service of Action for Divorce via Facebook

Tuesday, June 9th, 2015

Judge Allows Service of Action for Divorce via Facebook By Gayle Rosenblum

In a landmark ruling, a New York judge recently directed the service of a summons with notice for an action of divorce via Facebook.

In the case of Baidoo v. Blood-Dzraku (2015 NY Slip Op 25096), Judge Matthew Cooper, after being provided with proof of other numerous attempts, afforded the Plaintiff the right to serve her husband with divorce papers by means of the social media program, Facebook.


Domestic Partnerships in New York

Monday, June 8th, 2015

Domestic Partnerships in New York By Gayle Rosenblum

What is a Domestic Partnership?

A domestic partnership under the laws of the State and City of New York is for couples that have a close and committed personal relationship. There is an application fee of $35 to become a domestic partnership. To revoke a domestic partnership, there is a separate flat fee of $27.